I went off on Steve Pavlina but perhaps I should have instead viewed it as a wakeup call asking whether or not I am up to the task of deepening my intimate relationship. If I believe what I said in my response to Steve then my job now is to walk my talk. I realize that there is no better crucible of change than a marriage. Either you change and grow and live happily, or remain the same and live a life of misery. Hopefully if we chose the latter we have the strength and courage to distintegrate the unhealthy marriage…